BACKSEAT LIAISONS

Denzel Smith (not his real name) is a professional beat writer and a full time parent. By day, he dedicates quality time to his profession and to his child. By night, when Mr Smith is off the payroll and his son is fast asleep (and a babysitter is on task), he is a man about town. On this particular night, he is meeting Kate Paltrow(not her real name) for drinks at a local martini bar. This was Denzel and Kate's second meeting in as many nights. Their first date occurred over dinner at Kate's favorite chain restaurant. The night was filled with humor and seemed more like a q & a session as the two learned the unknown intricacies of each other. Night 2 however, had a different feel from the start. The two had become more comfortable with each other after their first meeting, so the kinks were out, so to say. The setting was more intimate and more sexy. The two sat in a corner booth which allowed them to sit right next to each other; so close that Kate could smell the hint of cologne that Denzel splashed on his neck. The two ate appetizers, humorously conversed and drank martini's. As the night progressed, their humorous conversation took a turn(for the better) as their arms interlocked and Denzel reached over and kissed Kate.

Kate, a bit surprised, but turned on, reached back over and kissed Denzel. The small act of intimacy continued for a while. Before long, the martini's kicked in and so did the testosterone and estrogen. And almost in sync, Denzel and Kate uttered... Check please!

The two walked back to Denzels car, where he politely opened Kate's door. Denzel then let himself in on the driver side. He starts the car. But before he could put the car in reverse, Kate reached over and began to aggressively kiss his neck; and he began to fondle her; he instructed her to move to the back seat and remove her clothes, and in what seemed liked an instance, an intense sexual encounter took place! A backseat liaison of sorts.

The intrigue to these types of intimate encounters are not the encounters themselves. I'm sure many of us can recall our days of yesteryear, when the backseat doubled as a hotel. And then, upon maturation, you realize the apparent sleaze of your actions...Fast forward some years, and we find ourselves revisiting the backseat; This time, minus the sleaze. For, the intrigue to the backseat, is the sexual spontaneity of the experience. Yes, Denzel and Kate could have opted for a hotel room or his or her own bedroom. But the lusty moment called for immediate action. That immediate action and willingness to concede to impulse, resulted in an explosive, orgasmic, episode.

So where do you stand on backseat liaisons? Many people are for spontaneity and impulse. Many have developed, what I call, the "class shield". They become so closed minded to such encounters and dismiss them as childish, classless and sleazy. They feel they undermine adulthood and it demeans them... I think it's sexy based on a given situation. Denzel and Kate were only on their second date. That presents risk. But if you're in that same situation with your lady friend or guy friend of 5yrs, is it so risky? If Denzel was with, lets say, his wife, would that change perception? Think about the movie UNFAITHFUL. There's a scene where Dianne Lane is eating lunch with her friends at a restaurant and her young fling comes in and signals her to the bathroom; she followed him in there and had a pretty interesting tryst, that we all thought was, well... interesting (to say the least). Now I know she was cheating, but think about if that was Richard Gere (her husband in the movie). Would the perception of the tryst change? Ladies and gentlemen, have we grown so far in maturity that we are above a little sexy fun? Or ladies and gentlemen are we still willing to be a little provocative and spontaneous while outside four walls and a queen size bed? This is food for thought, you do the dishes.