We exist in a world, where the vast number of relationships we maintain are built upon the trust tenet. We trust the mailman won't steal our tax refund checks; or the barber won't deliberately give us a bald head because he is in a rush; or the pat on the back that we received from our boss, didn't result in a "kick me" sign being posted on our backs; or that the person to whom we dedicate our trustworthiness is reciprocating it back our way. It is the emptiest of thoughts that most of us rather not entertain. But, what if trust was the blindfold of deceit... ?
Even Satan has an advocate.
Now there are some who view trust as the stronghold to relationships. But there are also those that view trust as suckers 101. Take a long distance relationship for example; A couple lives 300 miles apart and may see each other once every four or five weeks for two or three days at a time. The relationship operates because of the mutual belief that love prevaileth over all, and that trust is the conscientious boundary that shall remain sacred and uncrossed.
But what if one or both parties treated that very relationship, while outside the bird watchers view, as if it did not even exist? What if while 300 miles apart, one or both of the parties had lives that brought to life the old additive, out of sight, out of mind?
Of course, that scenario usually is not evident initially. And while many subscribe to this devilish advocacy, I subscribe to the theory, that trust is the safety box for one's piece of mind. In fact, it mirrors the ideological difference that exists between philosophy and religion. Religion, like trust, is rooted in faith. And philosophy (like those who scoff at such a thing as trust) is rooted in a deepened logic. So like religious faith, to some, trust is seemingly illogical. (I, by the way subscribe to religious faith)
So is it a paradox?
How can such a vast number of people subscribe to such a thing as trust if it is illogical?
Or is it?
Many people in my circle of friends, tell me that they only can worry about what they control. They believe that one may fly over the cuckoo's nest if they sat around and wondered what their partner was engaged in while out of sight.In other words, the trust is the given and it's there to lose. And in the case of that logic, it puts it in a different perspective. I guess it's all in all in how one mentally dissects it. But because relationships are commitments that at some point in time we all engage, the conversation garners a deeper meaning.
A cheater isn't a cheater until their caught, right?
But wait, you won't cross that path until your confronted with it, right?
I guess it depends on what side of the trust coin you flip, right?
This is food for thought, you all can do the dishes.
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3 comments:
I agree with your circle of CONFIDENT friends. You can't control the actions of others but you can control your judgment of character, which should result in a quality man/woman. Who doesn't trust good quality?
The phrase "you get what you pay for" lingers through all of life's challenges.
I enjoyed this blog post man, it definatly gives you something to think about. Trust is something that we were told we were suppose to have to maintain a relationship, but its the very ones we trust the most that hurt us all the time. Most times a person cant even trust themselves. Trusting someone can create a blindness to ones eyes, and not allow them to see a person for what they really are.
Jers2dirty you said it best, if they don't trust themseleves; how is another to be added to the equation. Trust starts with forgivness of others and your past, without that you're carrying baggage. Start every friendship/relationship as your first (with one open for the signs:))) but don't be a fool.
Keep'em coming I need more of this to past the work day!
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